Hmm...This is tough for me because I feel strongly about so many things...
1. Well, first and foremost, my STRONGEST belief is that children should just an over abundance of Love and attention. (That is why We co-sleep and why I co-bathe.) I want her to know I am there with her always. I hate hate hate when people say, "I play with them about 30 minutes a day. They don't need me any longer than that. If I am with them too long they will start to rely on me and that isn't good for their development." WHAT?! I'm talking about people who won't even eat dinner next to their kids. Why have a kid to ignore them? They need to learn to rely on you. That is what is good for their development. Gir!
2. Reading, Reading, Reading VS. TV. Kind of like Christina, I am picky about TV. We do let her watch...Let me back up. Jessie does let her watch things she probably shouldn't. Like she knows who Peter is on Family Guy. *Rolls Eyes* Definitely not a fan of that show. I used to be, but not anymore. Anyway, I prefer her to read WAY more than she watches TV. She has a whole load of books and for at least an hour and a half a day we read. (She watches 30 minutes of TV a day, unless it is movie night.) And when it comes to reading, I want her reading all different types of books with different writing styles and illustrations. That is why I LOVE the Dolly Parton Library so much! It is great way to get books that I otherwise would have never picked out for her to read. I generally pick Barney or something I remember reading when I was little.
3. Involvement: This is especially important because we are going to homeschool her. I want her INVOLVED. I don't want her just going out with friends. I want her involved, weather she decided to volunteer with the church, take lessons like she is doing now, whatever she decides to do, I want her involved in at least 2 activities by time she is 4. (I am hoping she will pick dance because I can not explain how good this girl is at dance! I'm not talking about no 2 year old stuff. I am talking about DANCING. She will say, "They treat me really nicely. "I drive these brothers crazy, I do it on the daily,
They treat me really nicely, They buy me all these ices. Dolce & Gabbana, Fendi and that Donna..." and she will dance, like...I gotta get a video. It's great! (I know we shouldn't, but we allow her to listen to songs like that because I don't think they are a big deal. She can't understand them. I didn't understand songs like that until I was in my teens. They were just songs to me. I liked the beat. Don't get me wrong, by NO means will she listen to something like Eminem, but I think songs like My Humps are okay.) She also LOVES to preform! Anytime she sees a stage she is on it! She is definitely not my kid. I try to stay out of the spot light...Anyway....I'm just rambling now...
They treat me really nicely, They buy me all these ices. Dolce & Gabbana, Fendi and that Donna..." and she will dance, like...I gotta get a video. It's great! (I know we shouldn't, but we allow her to listen to songs like that because I don't think they are a big deal. She can't understand them. I didn't understand songs like that until I was in my teens. They were just songs to me. I liked the beat. Don't get me wrong, by NO means will she listen to something like Eminem, but I think songs like My Humps are okay.) She also LOVES to preform! Anytime she sees a stage she is on it! She is definitely not my kid. I try to stay out of the spot light...Anyway....I'm just rambling now...
Stealing These From Christina:
4. Sex: I am in agreeance with Christina here. I want to talk to Samantha about, without weirding her out like my family has done in the past...still does...And I know there isn't much without just forcing them to stay home, that you can do to make 100% sure that they aren't having sex. (Of course, maybe in the future they will make something for parents where an alarm goes off it they do. Idk. lol) Anyway, the MOST IMPORTANT thing I want to stress...Well, there is 2. 1. Have sex with someone you LOVE, not someone you think you Love for the moment. I mean, I want her to really think about it. She can even come talk to me, doubt she will, but she can. and 2. IF she has a kid, SHE will take care of it. This Mama isn't here to care for your kid so you can go party or do what you want. My Mom never bathed Samantha. She never fed or changed her. (Except the rare occasions she baby sits, but she used to only watch her late at night when she was asleep in her crib. Because she knew she wouldn't wake up. Her only just was to save her if there was a fire pretty much.) She never picked out her clothes or anything like that. That was my job, and I can't understand why other people act like they NEED their parents to do that.
Sadly, I don't know about discipline. I HATE HATE HATE spanking!!! Gosh, I HATE IT!!! But...sometimes it is the only way to get through to her. Before she turned 2, all I had to do was say, "Samantha, hitting friends isn't nice. Let's give them a kiss and tell them we are sorry." Now I have to say, "Samantha! Tell them you are sorry RIGHT NOW!!!" And she will still say, "No!" Timeouts don't work...Grounding does, but only when it isn't something that needs to be corrected instantly like hitting or talking back. I will ground her if she doesn't pick up her toys or something. I will say, "If Mommy has to pick up your blocks, you will not play with them for one whole week." And she will just say, "Okay." But what gets her is when I leave them out for her to see, and the next day she will say, "Oh. I wanna play with my blocks." That is when I say, "Sorry, Samantha, you did not pick them up yesterday like I asked you to, and I told you you would be grounded if you didn't." And I stick to it. Man it makes her MAD, but it teaches her. Anyway, what I am needing is advice on what to when it is something that needs to be corrected instantly. Can't use positive reinforcement anymore, although I still try. Can't yell. Don't want to spank. And timeouts don't work...
I may add more later. First I want to know...Am I doing it right, Christina? lol.
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